
There’s something magical about falling in love with a book. But you know what’s even better? Falling in love with a book alongside someone else.
Buddy reading, the practice of reading the same book at the same time as a friend. has transformed the way I experience stories. What started as a casual “hey, want to read this together?” has become one of my favorite reading rituals. If you’ve never tried it, here’s why you absolutely should.
Reading Doesn’t Have to Be Solitary
We often think of reading as a deeply personal, solitary activity. And it is, there’s beauty in curling up alone with a good book. But it doesn’t have to be an either-or situation. Buddy reading lets you keep that intimate connection with the story while adding a whole new dimension of shared experience.
Think about it: when you watch a great TV show, you probably text your friends about it. When you see a movie, you discuss it afterward. Why should books be any different? Buddy reading brings that same communal energy to literature.
The Conversations Are Pure Gold
Here’s where buddy reading really shines: the conversations. When you’re both reading the same book at the same pace, you get to experience all those big moments together. The plot twists hit different when you can immediately message someone with “DID YOU JUST READ THAT?!”
Those spontaneous reactions, the gasps, the theories, the righteous anger at a character’s terrible decision, become shared memories. You’re not just reading a book; you’re creating inside jokes, debating motivations, and sometimes arguing passionately about whether the protagonist should have chosen door number one or door number two.
Some of my favorite literary discussions have happened in chaotic text threads at midnight, filled with spoiler warnings and capslock enthusiasm.
It Keeps You Accountable
Let’s be honest: we all have that TBR pile that’s threatening to topple over. We all have books we genuinely want to read but somehow never get around to starting. Buddy reading creates a gentle accountability that actually works.
When someone is waiting to discuss the next chapter with you, you’re much more likely to actually read it. It’s not pressure, it’s motivation. There’s something about knowing your reading partner is probably just as excited to talk about what happens next that makes you want to pick up the book instead of scrolling through your phone.
I’ve finally read so many books on my list simply because a friend suggested we read them together. Books I might have abandoned during slow sections became easier to push through because I knew a great conversation was waiting on the other side.
You See Books in New Ways
One of the most surprising benefits of buddy reading is how it expands your understanding of a book. Your reading partner will notice things you missed. They’ll have interpretations you never considered. They’ll connect dots you didn’t even see were there.
I once buddy-read a literary fiction novel and was completely focused on the protagonist’s relationship with her mother. My reading partner, meanwhile, was captivated by the symbolism of water throughout the book, something I’d barely registered. Our discussion afterward made me appreciate layers of the story I’d completely overlooked.
Different readers bring different perspectives, experiences, and insights. When you combine those, you get a richer, more complex understanding of the book than you might have achieved alone.
It Works for Any Reading Speed
Worried that you read too fast or too slow? Buddy reading is surprisingly flexible. You can set chapter goals, read to specific page numbers, or just check in when you both finish. Some buddy readers prefer to stay in lockstep, others are fine with a few days’ difference.
The key is communication. Establish some ground rules about spoilers, decide on your check-in points, and respect each other’s reading pace. I’ve buddy-read with people who devour books in a day and others who take weeks. As long as you’re both enjoying the process, there’s no wrong way to do it.
How to Start Buddy Reading
Ready to give it a try? Here’s how to jump in:
Find your reading partner. This could be a friend, family member, online book club member, or someone from social media. Look for someone whose taste overlaps with yours, but don’t worry if you don’t agree on everything, different perspectives make it interesting.
Choose your book together. Pick something you’re both genuinely excited about. New releases work great because you’re discovering the story at the same time, but backlist titles and classics are wonderful too.
Set expectations. Decide how you want to pace yourselves, how often you’ll check in, and how you’ll communicate. Text? Voice notes? Video calls? There’s no wrong answer.
Create a spoiler-free zone. If one person gets ahead, they need to zip it. The magic of buddy reading is experiencing those moments together, so protect that for each other.
Have fun with it. Send memes about the characters. Create a shared playlist. Make predictions. Treat it like the social, joyful experience it should be.
Not Every Book Needs a Buddy
Here’s the thing: buddy reading isn’t meant to replace solo reading. Some books you’ll want to experience alone, at your own pace, in your own way. And that’s perfect. Buddy reading is just another tool in your reading life, not a replacement for the quiet joy of reading solo.
But for the right book with the right person? Buddy reading can transform a good reading experience into an unforgettable one. It reminds us that while books may be written by one person and read by one person at a time, stories have always been meant to be shared.
So grab a friend, pick a book, and dive in together. Your next favorite reading memory might be just a “want to read this with me?” away.
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